Today: Jul 08 , 2020

Mothers: The Hearts of Families

10 May 2020  

On Mother's Day in particular, we need to thank God for all that our mothers have done for us.

Since today is Mother's Day, it is appropriate to discuss the role of mothers in our lives, our families and our country. While discussing this subject with a great mother, my wife Judi, we reflected on our unbelievable luck in having the mothers we both had. Although our mothers were different from each other in a lot of ways, it was their similarities that they had with so many other mothers that made them each the hearts of their respective families.

Judi and I have the deepest empathy for those who had to suffer without a loving, caring and compassionate mother. Those who have overcome the burden of being raised outside the nuclear family, deserve all of our prayers, respect and admiration. All of us who were fortunate enough to be raised by nurturing mothers, need to show them all of the love, respect and esteem we can, not only on Mother's Day, but every day. After all, when we were most helpless, it was our mothers who fed us, kept us clean, changed our diapers and kept us out of harms way.

In our childhoods, it was our mothers who usually taught us the basic things we needed to know to advance into adolescence: how to put on our clothes, how to tie our shoes, clean our bodies and how to wash behind our ears. Very good mothers taught their children the fundamentals of arithmetic and reading before and during kindergarten. When we scraped a knee, cut a finger, stubbed a toe or were stung by a bee, we always ran to our mothers because they knew how to stop the pain and/or make us feel better.

It is hard for us baby boomers to understand how today's kids get along when most families have two working parents. In our day, mothers were much easier to talk to and get advice from, because we were around them all of the time. That familiarity did not breed contempt. On the contrary, it increased affection, at least until we rebelled as teenagers. Even then, mothers seemed to be more understanding, but also more protective than dads.

It is almost always moms who remember birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions. It is usually our moms who tell us what to wear or that the red and white polka dot shirt doesn't go with the striped yellow tie and camouflage pants. Our dads would just laugh as we left and let us learn that lesson the hard way. Mothers don't want us to be embarrassed. As a father, I can say that we look on embarrassing situations as lessons that will never be forgotten.

We owe so much to both of our parents, and each one provides us with the traits that make us who we are. On Mother's Day in particular, we need to thank God for all that our mothers have done for us. For those of us privileged enough to have a mother still with us, we need to show her all of the affection, fortitude, humor and support that she gave us throughout our lives. For all of the mothers reading this, I hope that you can vividly feel all of the hugs and kisses that this overblown pandemic sheltering is not permitting you to feel in real life. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.



Buz Williams

Richard F. "Buz" Williams was born into a police family.  His father, both grandfathers, a great uncle and a cousin were all on the Los Angeles Police Department and he also had an uncle on the Hawthorne, California Police Department.  Buz served for 29 years on the Long Beach, California Police Department were he worked Patrol, Juvenile, Vice, Auto Theft and Gangs.  He retired in December of 2002.  Buz has been married to his wife Judi for 44 years.  They have two grown sons who live in Southern California with their families, which include two daughter-in-laws, three grandsons and a granddaughter.  Buz and Judi have lived in Prescott since 2004.